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The Store of Lu & Mithi: About Lu

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It is always a challange to write about oneself without leaving out an important detail of the own personality. What to say? How to start?

I can describe myself as a romantic, believing in the one and only true love and in being faithful and honest to the people I love. I despise selfish people as well as people who think they are superiour to others. The biggest heart is the one that is treating all kinds of people with respect and without prejudice.

The day I met Mithi I opened my heart to him without prejudice. I opened it to him completely, giving it all to him. I felt like my life started having a meaning with him. I felt never alone again. Every time I came from work he was there waiting to talk to me. And I enjoyed our talks so much. He gave me that feeling that I was able to talk about anything on my heart, expressing it openly.

When Mithi lost his job and had to move back to his parents house in Mangalore, India more than one year ago, I was thinking this would be only temporary. But things turned out differently. He was even more busy there and our talks became less. I tried to think positive in any way and to enjoy life in Berlin the best way possible so that I would not drown in sadness. First it worked fine, but I started to be more and more busy with my office life and especially with making bonds with colleagues. Thinking this would be a good thing to do turned out to be the opposite.

When the person you love is not there to talk to you and to share all the moments with you, you share these moments with someone else. In my case it was a colleague that I started to like a lot. We understood quite well and I thought we could be really good friends. The problem was that I felt more inside when being with him. Many nights I stayed awake thinking how it could be that I felt in a way for him that I used to feel only for Mithi. I knew the answer was the distance.

I am a very open person and I knew that Mithi was able to see that there was something on my mind, so I told him openly about my emotional status and how hard the situation was on me. I promised him to control my feelings if he would give me enough time to find myself again. I am aware of how much I hurt him during that time by telling him everything and asking him to give me time, but during that period I was emotionally devastated and a wreck. I was unable to care for him emotionally too. First I had to fix myself inside and find out where and why I lost myself on the way.

When I came to Mangalore in October to spend the month with Mithi I was hoping my visit would help me to find back to myself and to our love but I was still not ok by then and things would not simply go back to what they were before…

The Store of Lu & Mithi: About Mithi

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I will never forget the day I was talking to Mithi for the first time. He was crying like waterfalls telling me how lonely he felt and that he was thinking about suicide because he had nobody being there for him and caring for him. I did not know him at all and I also had no idea in my mind what I was actually expecting for myself from talking to him but for some reasons I felt very touched by him opening up to me as a complete stranger, him feeling so free to tell me all these very intimate things from his life. He asked me directly if I was interested in a relationship with him and I said yes.

Looking back, it occures rarely that two people decide so fast to have a relationship with each other. In that case, it was not planned, it just happened. Usually you feel very soon if there is a connection between you and another person and it was there between the two of us. We also knew that we wanted the same out of life.

The following months and years would bring many wonderful conversations, growing feelings and a strong appereciation for each other. Finally we were both able to share our happiness and sadness with someone.

It was not hard for me to love Mithi. His nature made it very easy for me. He can be described as very caring and fully devoted to his partner. He is also a very humorous and witty person. It never gets boring with him. He is a source of information and I admit that I have learned a lot from him. I still miss our conversations enormously. Not only was he a source of information to me, but also a source of inspiration. As I already mentioned, he was the one who inspired me to start this blog and to try out so many things that I would not start on my own. I am one of these people who need an incentive to be creative and for me it was him.

Mithi has many talents. He is a talented writer, a great cook, good in crafts and singing. People love to be around him. For me all these things are not as important as his loving a caring heart.

So the reason why our relationship ended had nothing to do with him. He was actually the best partner I could wish for. It had to do with me and the circumstances we were put in. But that is a different chapter.

The Story of Lu & Mithi: The Beginning

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It has been a really long time since I posted something on my blog. I started this blog with the idea of sharing with all of you pieces of my life and creative ideas such as cooking, sewing and photography. It was actually love for my darling Mithi that moved me to start this blog. Unfortunately our relationship did not survive the circumstances we were put into but the love was true and beautiful and it is still in my heart.

Being with Mithi was the most wonderful time in my life and I am still thankful for the chance of meeting the most precious person in my life so far.

I do not want to indulge in sentimentaliy but simply express my feelings about this blessed time and relationship with my partner, giving it the respect that it deserves.

I am expressing my feelings by telling our story, the story about two lovers, the story about Lu and Mithi, the names we have given each other, accompanied with photographs I made in his home town, Mangalore, India.

So this is the beginning…

My latest fabric collection

IMGP1126My days are very busy and I have to stay on track planning my job career for the next months and years, so there is not really time to design or sew something. Nevertheless I did some great fabric shopping this year and I have enough material to work with. Of course, I did not want to hold back myself from giving you a look into my fabric closet and a little preview of what you could expect to see from me the next months.IMGP1128Considering the fact that I want to make menswear, it’s a little bit funny what fabrics I’ve chosen to work with, but I love to work with interesting unconventional fabrics. It’s a great way to practice and to mix different fabrics together.

So, there was this velvet stretch fabric on sale and I bought 4 meters of it. I’ve already done some pieces with it and I can tell you it’s not easy to work with it.IMGP1135Then we have this vintage looking light chiffon fabric. I can imagine a beautiful tunic or shirt with it.IMGP1134I also bought some gold and shiny fabrics. It’s really one of my favorite color. Some of these could be used as a lining or in a decorative way.IMGP1132 IMGP1138 IMGP1133Naturally, I want to make some beautiful warm sweaters and jackets, so I’ve found these gorgeous knit fabrics with a fabulous structure and beautiful colors.IMGP1131 IMGP1129The one I fell in love with the most was this colorful and vibrant but yet romantic silk fabric. It cost me the most money out of all my fabrics.IMGP1137I hope my days become more relaxed again so that I can start with all my different sewing projects turning these gorgeous fabrics into lovely clothes.

The Brave Cook

My fashion week favorites!

Following the fashion week shows and all the new fall/winter 2013 collections was great. It’s so inspiring to see the visions of so many designers and to get inspired yourself. I’ve decided to show you some of my favorite looks from the fashion week when is comes to design and inspiration. These are not the most beautiful or most wearable looks, but the ones that inspired me the most. It’s a very colorful mix from different designers. Enjoy.

The Brave Cook

Walter Van Beirendonck

Walter Van Beirendonck

Vivienne Westwood

Vivienne Westwood

Versace

Versace

Rynshu

Rynshu

Rick Owens

Rick Owens

Maison Martin Margiela

Maison Martin Margiela

Juun J

Juun J

John Richmond

John Richmond

John Galliano

John Galliano

Gustavolins

Gustavolins

Givenchy

Givenchy

Etro

Etro

Dsquared

Dsquared

Dries Van Noten

Dries Van Noten

Damir Doma

Damir Doma

Comme des Garcons

Comme des Garcons

Canali

Canali

Phillip Lim

Phillip Lim

Blog of the year award 2012!

Happy new year to all of you bloggers and all of my followers! I hope your year 2012 was as successful as mine and that the next year will be the same productive, creative and inspiring as the last one. I really did enjoy the christmas holidays so far and I could use all the time to finish some of my projects. There are still some days left for me until going back to work. I definitely want to use this time to relax and to gather some energy to be even more productive until the next holidays.Blog of the Year Award 1 star thumbnail

I was very surprised to visit my Blog yesterday and to find out that I was nominated by http://cookingforthechemicallysensitive.wordpress.com/ for my first Blog of the Year 2012 Award! I’ve started blogging four months ago and this award is definitely a huge motivation to continue blogging and sharing my experiences with all of you. Hopefully there is a chance for me to receive next year a second Blog of the Year Award!

My two nominees for the Blog of the Year Award are

http://thekitchensgarden.com/

http://borschtandbabushkas.com/

The ‘rules’ for this award are simple:

  1. Select another blog or other blogs who deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award;
  2. Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there’s no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ them with their award;
  3. Include a link back to this page Blog of the Year 2012’ Award at the Thought Palette and provide these ‘rules’ in your post (please don’t alter the rules or the badges!)
  4. Let the blog(s) you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the ‘rules’ with them
  5. You can now also join our Facebook group – click ‘like’ on this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award Facebook group and then you can share your blog with an even wider audience
  6. As a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog and sidebar … and start collecting stars…

There are stars to collect! Yes, there are stars to collect!

Unlike other awards which you can only add to your blog once – this award is different!

When you begin you will receive the 1 star award, and every time you are given the award by another blog, you can add another star! There are total of 6 stars to collect.

You can check out your favorite blogs, and even if they have already been given the award by someone else, you can still award them again and help them to reach the maximum 6 stars!

For more information check FAQ on The Thought Palette

The Brave Cook

My second award… The Reality Blog Award!

reality-blog-awardIt’s been only a week that I got my first blog award here on wordpress and this week I already received my second award. This time I need to thank Tonette of tonettejoycefoodfriendsfamily.wordpress.com for nominating me for the Reality Blog Award. It is very motivating to receive such a special award.

Here are five questions to be answered for this award:

1.If you could change one thing, what would you change?

I wished there would be no borders between countries and everyone was free to travel,work and to live where he wants.

2. If you could repeat an age, what would it be?

I would repeat my high school time, to be more ambitious about my future plans this time.

3. What is one thing that really scares you?

To loose myself in a monotone job not being able to change my situation.

4. What is one dream you have not completed, and do you think you’ll be able to complete it?

I’m dreaming of starting my own clothing collection, it’s still a long way there, but I’m planning to complete it.

5. If you could be someone else for one day, who would it be?

I would like to be my partner for one day to understand the way he feels and to understand who it feels to be in a relationship with me.

Here are some of my nominees for the Reality Blog Award:

Hannah of Hannah West Illustration

Munaiba of Sewjournal

Caroline of The Patterned Plate

Shelly of Vegetarian Ventures

Annie of Lime House Food

Michael of Inspiring The Everyday

Veena of Vina’s Delicious Recipes

Marlene of Life Through The Kitchen Window

Pallavi of Veggiezest

Sam and Phil of Cook Quilt Make And Bake

Amy of Chew Out Loud

Anne of The Maker Girl

The rules of the award are:

1  Visit and thank the blogger who nominated you.
2  Acknowledge that blogger on your blog and link back.
3  Answer the same 5  questions presented.
4  Nominate up to 20 blogs for the award and notify them on their blogs.
5  Copy and paste the award on your blog somewhere.

Congratulations to all of you and thanks to everyone who is following my blog every month!

The Brave Cook

The first snow and the first award!

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What a nice week! The temperature decreased, the winter season did obviously arrive and we had the first snow here in Berlin. The snow did not last long, but I’m sure there will be a lot of snow the next days and I promise to make some winter photographies for you.

I have also received my first blog award! Many thanks to Samantha of Food Flavor Fascination for nominating me for the One Lovely Blog Award! I did not expect this at all.

7 random things about me!

  1. I was not that good at school! I loved to read and to write but I was pretty bad in all the other subjects.
  2. When I was young I always was the leader of the whole clique. Now that I’m older I prefer not to lead and rather to stay in the background. Maybe that has also to do with my convenience.
  3. I love hip hop music! Despite all the prejudices and clichés about hip hop music I always loved most of the hip hop artists and songs. I also listen to other music but my hip hop music collection is quite big. Hip hop is more versatile than many think.
  4. I love the color white! As long as I can remember white was always my favorite color and when I have to buy something most of the times I go for the white version of it. This applies to fashion as well as to furniture and other stuff.
  5. I’m not a city guy! There is really not a lot of things that attract me in the city. I prefer being in the nature and creating my own day rather than being distracted by all what the big city life offers.
  6. I believe in the good heart of a person even though I’m not religious in the sense of being part of a confession. That’s why I don’t understand people being ignorant and living in their own little reality discriminating people who differ from the norm of their own circle of friends.
  7. I would do anything and go anywhere for my beloved darling Mithun. I don’t care a lot about most things but when it comes to love and relationship I’m a full-hearted person willing to move mountains.

Here are the lovely blogs and bloggers that I am nominating for the One Lovely Blog Award!

Kristen of Borscht and Babushkas

Cecilia of The kitchen garden

Lakshmi of Lakshmi loves to shop

Danny of Danny Mansmith

EmilyAnn Frances of An attic in Brooklyn

Danny of gotasté

Sarah of good life farm

I am following these blogs and I love them a lot! Congratulations to all of you.

The rules of the award are:

1  Visit and thank the blogger who nominated you.
2  Acknowledge that blogger on your blog and link back.
3  Share 7 random things about yourself.
4  Nominate 7 or more blogs and notify them on their blogs.
5  Copy and paste the award on your blog somewhere.

The Brave Cook

Thanks to all of my followers…

Today I want to use the opportunity to thank all of my followers here on wordpress. This week I finally got 150 followers and I’m truly overwhelmed with the success of my blog. Of course I’m also thanking every single visitor and everyone who liked or commented on one of my posts.

I’m new to blogging and so is my blog new and developing. Two months ago I just started with my blog and this week I already got over 150 followers. That is pleasing me but at the same time it shows that some of you have expectations as to what I will post next. So I guess I earned some kind of responsibility.

I’m very busy every week with my regular sports training and my sewing projects next to my full time job, so I cannot post recipes on a regular basis as many bloggers do, but I will still let you take part in my life and give you insight into my latest cooking/sewing projects and plans.

I also enjoy reading all the other interesting blogs here on wordpress about cooking, traveling, photography, family and life itself. Some of your blogs fascinate me a lot and comparing my blog to these I know I have a lot to learn.

Once again, thanks to all of you from me and my sweet darling Mithi and keep enjoying my blog and everything what is ahead!

The Brave Cook

Oh rainy day!

On rainy days like today I enjoy staying at home, leaning at my kitchen window and beholding the beautiful view while the rain is dripping gently on the roof top, giving every surface a glance, so that it appears in even more brighter colors. I tend to forget in such a moment all the things causing me stress and sorrows. Instead of that I start to reminisce about the things that are making me feel happy and complete!

The last months had been definitely not very kind to me. I had to go through financial constraints, health problems and distrust between me and my colleagues in the office. Of course I kept myself focused on my own life and my plans, but sometimes you get the feeling in life like everyone is simply up to make your life more difficult. These are the moments when you can regain strength by relying on your loved ones and to remember that life is about yourself and what you make of it, not about what you get!

My life is not for a long time yet at the point I wished it would be, but I still have the chance and the free choice to change my life, to approach my dreams and my visions!  I remember all these things when looking out my kitchen window and forgetting about the other things in life that are not really important to take them too much to heart. It will be a long way to get there, but life is about finding new goals and overcoming new challenges. I already know what I want in life and that is the best start!

Tomorrow the sun may come out again for me, but for all the other rainy days I keep leaning at my kitchen window and beholding the beautiful view.

The Brave Cook

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